This made me wonder if many of our our children are so 'supported' in their learning that they lose the ability to think and act independently. It is as if they feel that their learning cannot take place until an adult is there to help them.
This morning, I read an article published in 'is international School' entitled 'The 'Maid Phenomenon'- a worrying trend for schools?" (Bradley,G., is International School, Autumn Spring 2014 Vol 17.1 pgs 18-19) in this article Dr Bradley talks about how our maids can actually hinder the development of the life skills, independent learning and attitudes that we work on so hard to develop both through our school philosophy and curriculum.
She states that some of the consequences of 'the maid phenomenon' can include:
- poor language development
- promoting 'learned helplessness' which may hinder the development of self reliance
- attachment disorders- sometimes, maids take on the role of 'parent'
- poor behaviour
- children relinquishing vital skills which have become unnecessary for life in this context
- children taking for granted that someone else will pick up after them
- a belief that some individuals are worth less than others
I have written before about the need to develop resilience in our children. They need to be able to get up, shake themselves off and carry on when they encounter mistakes, problems or difficulties, not just not try! Teaching then to be self reliant and independent is a really important part of this. So please, ensure that you are the one spending time with your child and that you are encouraging your maid to let the child do things by themselves and most importantly, encourage your children to value your maid as a person.
As a side note, this might really help our congestion at the beginning and end of the day- maids do not have to leave the drivers to double park while they (carrying the child's schoolbag) walk them into or out of school, rather than have them wait for them with me at the top of the stairs!